Monday, August 31, 2009

I Never Imagined

I never imagined that I would be raising a teenager again.

Throughout the summer there have been many incidents of my son-in-law physically abusing my 17 year old grandson, Dylan. Dylan has come here for refuge several times. Now he is living here.

His mother, who had come to me for help and with every intention of divorcing the abusive husband has moved away and abandoned Dylan. I do know she is alive after talking to one of her neighbors, and I have found out that she has gone to a city about 400 miles away with said husband taking her two small children with her. She has left her job as a nurse, her very nice home is sitting empty and her dog and her son are with me. She has changed her cell phone number and has not been in touch with anyone in the family. Am I worried? Yes!

We converted what was the little kid's playroom back into a bedroom for Dylan and he is back in school. His mother let him drop out last year. He also has a job and we are all working to adjust.

Gosh its hard having someone in the house all the time. I find myself with little time for the computer, for making jewelry, for having fun. I know it will get easier as we settle into a routine. I hate to admit it, but I am being way too hard on myself for not feeling differently right now, not giving myself enough time to get used to all this it seems. Its just hard.

I am grateful that my husband and I have the room for this kid. He's bright and he's had such a hard time of it.

I wish my daughter would call. I hope she's doing ok.

And, I've got to go do laundry.


Milena said...

I think you are doing an amazing job, sending lots of positive thoughts your way :)

Rose said...

Thanks so much.. energy received and appreciated:)

Judy Nolan said...

Your grandson is very lucky to have you. I'll be praying for the well-being of your daughter, however. How difficult this must be!

Zuda Gay Pease said...

I agree with Judy, EllieFae! Your grandson is very lucky to have you!! You are a hero!! Grandparents who take in their grandchildren no matter the age are heroes in my eyes. Praying your daughter is OK and you and your hubby and grandson can adjust as smoothly as possible and that many blessings will come to you from all your love and efforts. Sending a big hug....

Unknown said...

Wishing you the best; sending prayers and blessings out for all of you.


MysticBlueRose said...

What an amazing opportunity for healing you have given this young man. I am so proud of you!!!! GO ROSE!!!!! ((((((((((HUGS))))))))))